Kids are often blamed for being emotionally dysregulated, partly for good reason. While children's brains are developing they physically can't manage big emotions. So often children are singled out for having emotional meltdowns when parents are completely loosing control of their own emotions too. It's easy to blame the child as we as parents can feel justified in loosing control because kids can be so frustrating. Let's face it: nobody can push your buttons like your child. The problem is, if we lose control of our emotions when our kids are out of control, then we set up a culture of dysregulation. Emotions feed off emotions, so if we are going to bring calm we need to learn to regulate ourselves.