Shame and Grief

Shame is the sense of our badness being witnessed. We all have the need to be good, to be innocent, morally acceptable, but we all have parts that are malignant and malicious. So, how can we be Okay as a system when we have parts like that. When we are reminded of these malignant parts we experience excruciating pain and that pain is generated by SHAME. Our protective systems are designed to minimize that experience as much as possible but they actually attract and energize exactly what they're trying to prevent. 

Anger Difficulties